Marriage is a Private Affair

“Marriage is a Private Affair” is a powerful commentary on the clash between tradition and modernity in Nigeria, as well as the transformative power of love and communication in overcoming cultural differences. Achebe uses the relationship between Nnaemeka and Okeke to explore the complexities of cultural identity and the tension between individual desires and cultural expectations. At the same time, Achebe shows that cultural traditions can also be a source of strength and identity. Okeke’s attachment to traditional Igbo customs is a way for him to connect with his cultural heritage and maintain a sense of belonging in a rapidly changing world. However, Achebe also suggests that blind adherence to tradition can be harmful, particularly when it comes at the expense of important familial relationships.

The conflict between Nnaemeka and his father is representative of the larger struggle in colonial Nigerian society. Okeke’s adherence to tradition, especially around arranged marriage, is contrasted with Nnaemeka’s desire for personal autonomy and the freedom to make his own choices. The tension between the two characters is further complicated by the generational divide between parents and their children. Okeke’s inability to understand his son’s